TwoOfUs.org is terrible
I found a website called TwoOfUs.org. It is a federally sponsored relationship advice site that made me want to vomit. I posted this on their message boards. Hopefully someone who was actually considering the sites advice will read it and decide to be more realistic.
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I own this site. That means I am cool. Do what I say.
This website isn't a very good website because it puts out generic relationship advice that one could easily get off of daytime soaps or evening sitcoms, and doesn't pay any consideration to the basics of human behavior and attraction. Somehow I imagine the average user of this website has the personality of a dried slab of clay, in that they at one point had the potential to actually make something of themselves but instead settled into a hard rock that no one is interested in. Let's take this article for example, http://twoofus.org/educational-content/articles/dating-dos-and-donts/index.aspx
Number 2 says not to answer text messages or phone calls. Let me explain to you why it is absoluetely pivotal that you do.
If you are a girl, answering a phone call is a good way to "snap out of it" and centers you back in reality. This way you can make a better judgement call about the guy.
If you are a guy, answering a phone call or text message is a good way to demonstrate alpha characteristics. No girl is going to get pissy if you answer a text anyway, so go nuts.
The article also recomends for men to open doors and pull out chairs for women. If a man does this in any but the most affluent of restaurants (assuming you're stupid enough to go on a restaurant date) you will simply give signals of "I am trying to appease you so that you will accept me". Women don't dig this. It doesn't sparkle with them. Even if some won't admit it, they would rather get treated like an adult. Offering to split the bill is common sense, though, for you women out there.
When it comes to following up, for women it is a good idea to avoid calling them back for a little while because that is a good way to gauge their level of interest. It is important to do this so you don't either make yourself look silly or put it all out there too easy (unless you really want to, that's your business, I'm not going to judge)
If you are male and are the proud owner of a penis, don't make it too easy. Women don't like men who aren't a challenge. Be challenging. Call back whenever you want, and make the conversation more fun than reminiscent. Instead of "I had a great time!" go "I need your help breaking into Fort Drumm, I'm late on a cell phone payment!" Also, don't use that line, thats an example, grow some creativity and make up your own.
Heck, you don't even have to set up another date. Go shopping with the person. That's more fun and more interesting. Good advice is, take something you were going to do anyway, and have the other tag along. It makes it fun!
Girls, don't be late unless you, again, want to gauge their interest.
Men, be late if you want but lets' not get ridiculous, and don't apologize for it either. Remain aloof.
Discuss whatever you'd like. If you scare them off with an especially heavy or emotional subject, well, then I guess they aren't the best for you, are they? While we're on it, don't come on strongly unless you have already established rapport with them, and remember to always gauge their reaction before escelating.
Get physical as soon as you two are comfortable getting physical. Seriously folks. How is it that people dissect the simple act of hooking up into tiny little rules, it's not complicated. Do or don't. Don't beat around the bush, if you want to do it go do it and if you don't, why are you with them in the first place?
It's sterile silly relationship sites like this that are the reason the divorce rates in this country are well above 50 percent. Dating isn't safe. It isn't supposed to be safe. If it is made to be safe it is boring. Let's go back to the caves for a second. Dating wasn't safe back then. IF you were a girl you had to be careful because if you slept with a guy who ran off on you you would become pregnant, and without a father you and your child would both die. If you were a cave-guy and you talked to the wrong girl, her partner or father or brother would have no problem in the world killing you. It was an adventure every time you met someone new. This "I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship but I'll go out and have a boring night with this one person and I'll wear my sunday best and have answers prepared as though it were a job interview" is possibly the worst mentality to have.
The fact that this site is sponsored with my tax money makes it worse. Pigheaded beaurocrats giving advice on how to be human is a tremendous waste of money when we have a million other things it could be spent on.
In short, what's wrong with you all?
the end.
Number 2 says not to answer text messages or phone calls. Let me explain to you why it is absoluetely pivotal that you do.
If you are a girl, answering a phone call is a good way to "snap out of it" and centers you back in reality. This way you can make a better judgement call about the guy.
If you are a guy, answering a phone call or text message is a good way to demonstrate alpha characteristics. No girl is going to get pissy if you answer a text anyway, so go nuts.
The article also recomends for men to open doors and pull out chairs for women. If a man does this in any but the most affluent of restaurants (assuming you're stupid enough to go on a restaurant date) you will simply give signals of "I am trying to appease you so that you will accept me". Women don't dig this. It doesn't sparkle with them. Even if some won't admit it, they would rather get treated like an adult. Offering to split the bill is common sense, though, for you women out there.
When it comes to following up, for women it is a good idea to avoid calling them back for a little while because that is a good way to gauge their level of interest. It is important to do this so you don't either make yourself look silly or put it all out there too easy (unless you really want to, that's your business, I'm not going to judge)
If you are male and are the proud owner of a penis, don't make it too easy. Women don't like men who aren't a challenge. Be challenging. Call back whenever you want, and make the conversation more fun than reminiscent. Instead of "I had a great time!" go "I need your help breaking into Fort Drumm, I'm late on a cell phone payment!" Also, don't use that line, thats an example, grow some creativity and make up your own.
Heck, you don't even have to set up another date. Go shopping with the person. That's more fun and more interesting. Good advice is, take something you were going to do anyway, and have the other tag along. It makes it fun!
Girls, don't be late unless you, again, want to gauge their interest.
Men, be late if you want but lets' not get ridiculous, and don't apologize for it either. Remain aloof.
Discuss whatever you'd like. If you scare them off with an especially heavy or emotional subject, well, then I guess they aren't the best for you, are they? While we're on it, don't come on strongly unless you have already established rapport with them, and remember to always gauge their reaction before escelating.
Get physical as soon as you two are comfortable getting physical. Seriously folks. How is it that people dissect the simple act of hooking up into tiny little rules, it's not complicated. Do or don't. Don't beat around the bush, if you want to do it go do it and if you don't, why are you with them in the first place?
It's sterile silly relationship sites like this that are the reason the divorce rates in this country are well above 50 percent. Dating isn't safe. It isn't supposed to be safe. If it is made to be safe it is boring. Let's go back to the caves for a second. Dating wasn't safe back then. IF you were a girl you had to be careful because if you slept with a guy who ran off on you you would become pregnant, and without a father you and your child would both die. If you were a cave-guy and you talked to the wrong girl, her partner or father or brother would have no problem in the world killing you. It was an adventure every time you met someone new. This "I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship but I'll go out and have a boring night with this one person and I'll wear my sunday best and have answers prepared as though it were a job interview" is possibly the worst mentality to have.
The fact that this site is sponsored with my tax money makes it worse. Pigheaded beaurocrats giving advice on how to be human is a tremendous waste of money when we have a million other things it could be spent on.
In short, what's wrong with you all?
the end.
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I own this site. That means I am cool. Do what I say.
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